Saturday, January 31, 2009

New this, new that... new what?

So, lots has happened since my last post. We went through Christmas, the anniversary of Michell's death, New Years, and my birthday.
We did some things differently this Christmas - for one, we got a new tree. Michell and I had used the same tree for all 10 years of our marriage, so it was time for a new one - plus, I just didn't want to deal with using the same one we had used. We also put the tree downstairs instead of upstairs, which I liked alot.

Christmas was good - the girls and I had lots of fun. We all got lots of new stuff. Rachel's big gift was a video camera, which she loves. Zoe's big gift was a My First LeapPad, which she's still getting used to. My big gift was a new HD TV and HD TiVo box. I had been saving for the TV all year, and finally took the plunge. For the geeks in the audience, I got a 46" Samsung A650.

The anniversary of Michell's death was less of an issue than I expected. I kept expecting my grief to overcome me, but it didn't. I think I told my parents the same kind of thing over and over - "I keep expecting to be overwhelmed, and it just hasn't happened." Not that I don't miss her - I do, but the memories of her bring more joy than sadness now.

The New Year was an interesting event. It made me realize that I have been a single dad for a year now, and have survived it. Things are actually getting easier, partly because I am functioning at or near my full capacity again, and partly because the girls are both getting older. Zoe is over 2 now, and talking up a storm. While the 2's come with some discipline issues, they also come with new independence and ability that are making life better.

There's another "new" thing in my life, a new girlfriend. Her name is Tammy, and I have been amazed at how God brought her into my life at this time. I never thought it would happen this quickly, but God's plans are not always (or even often) what we expect them to be. We've been dating for a couple of months now, and I am amazed at the joy she brings to my life.

Here are a couple of pictures of her - one she got taken at a studio, and one of the two of us after the church's Christmas Program (it was set in the 1940's, which explains her costume & hair - she sang in an ensemble and with the choir).